Church was very good today. We didn’t “jump over the pews” or “swing from the chandeliers” but the Worship and the Word was of great quality and substance. However, what took place after church was even more powerful. Through the Wisdom of the Holy Spirit, I was able to minister to one of the young women of our church who is the Leader of a Uniquely-Headed Household. (I do not like the term ‘single-parent household’) I shared with her the approach my Mom, Mother Bernice Butler used to prepare us to be disciplined in church. The young lady was extremely grateful. I also shared with her some of the experiences of growing up in a Uniquely-Headed Household. And that blessed her as well.
Later on as I reflected on the event, I began to experience a release and freedom like I have never had before. The experience of growing up in a Uniquely-Headed Household was at times very difficult. At times it was awfully painful and painfully awful. One of the challenges was watching what my Mom endured to be unswervingly committed to raise 6 boys and 1 girl in a safe, loving and healthy environment. Many of the things my Mom did, I couldn’t understand. Sometimes I rued the stigma associated with this experience. But Mom, kept us going, often challenging us to ‘not be bitter because bitterness ties God’s hands’. Well, wouldn’t you know, when I shared with this precious young woman from our church the aforementioned experiences, it was priceless to see how it blessed her. Then it made sense. I would not have been able to minister to her the way I did, had I not gone through what I went through. My pain was for her profit.
Just like Joseph told his brothers, ‘you meant it for evil but God meant it for good, to save many people (Gen. 50:20), I can say that although growing up in a Uniquely-Headed Household should have broke me, IT BLESSED ME and In turn I was able to BLESS SOMEONE ELSE.
If you are the Leader of a Uniquely-Headed Household, take courage. Be careful and prayerful to let God lead, guide and direct you into the Glory He wants to get and bring out of your experience. And if you are the ‘child’ growing up or who has grown up in that reality, BE ENCOURAGED; God is going to make something wonderful out of your situation. And you will see why – how God takes what was meant for evil and brings out of it much good, to bless many people!
Pastor Darren E Butler, Sr